As I've established, all relationships take work. Some relationships taka more work than others. And, almost all relationships have disagreements. So what do people disagree about? Various studies have shown that the top three things people argue about are money, sex, and children, and usually in that order.
Money - Studies have shown that the #1 relationship argument topic is money. Who's making the money? How will we spend it? How much of it is "mine" to spend? These are some of the questions that are often asked. The problem is, very rarely will you see two people in a realtionship that were raised with the same attitude toward money. That's why it is very important for both of you to sit down and talk about this...and often. Establish very clear guidelines for the relationship regarding a) how much money there is to spend, b) what it will be spent on, c) who is going to be in charge of actually "spending" the money (or if it is going to be a shared duty), and d) if there is going to be any "mad money" or money that can be spent on non-necessary items. It is very important to establish these guidelines early in a relationship, because money problems will lead to other problems, and will ultimately end most relationships, if not resolved.
Sex - The same problem often exists when dealing with sex as it does with dealing with money. Rarely do two people grow up with the same attitudes toward sex. Since sex is such an important part of romantic relationships (it is a basic human desire, after all), it is important to very important to establish early on what each others' opinions are on a) how often you should have sex, b) how adventurous the sex will be, and let's not forget..c) what the boundaries are regarding sex with other people. Monogamy is not the only way to go in some people's minds, and it will be very unpleasant to find this out after something has happened. So, talk openly with your partner about sex. Both of you need to know how it is going to affect the relationship.
Kids - I left this one for last, only because many couples do not have children, so it is not applicable to all relationships. However, if you are even considering having children with the person you're with, this needs to be discussed in detail. Again, most people have very differing views on how children should be raised. It is very important to know where your partner stands on topics such as a) how often and what types of encouragement and punishment will be used, b) what types of influences will be allowed (TV, music, books, environment, etc.), and c) what types of foods the child will be allowed to eat. These things may seem trivial, but trust me, any of these will cause great strife in the relationship if both partners do not agree, or compromise, on how to handle each of these topics. This is probably the area where the greatest compromise is necessary, becaue people's views on this subject are usually at opposite extremes from each other.
Certainly, these are not the only things couples disagree about, but they are by and far the most common. So, sit down with your partner (or potential partner), talk to them about these things, and develop clear guidelines for each of them, and it will remove great amounts of stress and strain on the relationship. Or, you may find that the differences are too great, and that the two of you are not compatible. If that is the case, you are both better off knowing beforehand.
Will Irvin is the author of Missing Pieces: 21 Secrets of a Successful Relationship, available in paperback, hardcover, or as a downloadable pdf. For more information on the book, visit the book website at http://missingpiecesthebook.com MissingPiecesTheBook.com
Will is also the Webmaster for http://premierdatingonline.com Premier Dating Online, a valuable source for Online Dating Tips, Relationship Advice, and Dating Service Reviews. As an active member of the Online Dating Community, as well as the Online Social Networking Community in general, Will brings that same "street-level" perspective into online relationships, online etiquette, and human relationships in general.
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Sunday, March 29, 2009
How to Experience Better Relationships By Bryan Appleton
We all want to experience better relationships in our lives. For some people this is an easy thing to do. But, for many others it can seem almost impossible to attract the kinds of people into their lives that they can have the kind of relationship that they really desire. Feeling this way can keep someone from experiencing a full and complete life. So, is there a way that you can make sure that you experience better relationships in your life?
Of course there is! There are lots of people who find that they can experience better relationships when they start to feel better about themselves and their lives. If you want to be able to receive something, you have to be able to give it in return. So, you have to be in a position where you feel as though you can provide someone else with what they desire and then you will be ready to receive what you really want.
WHAT CAN YOU DO?
There are many ways that you can begin to experience better results in your life, but you have to be able to at first want to have this happen badly enough that you are willing to change how you think and feel about love and dating and relationships in general. If you already have a very negative outlook, you are not going to be able to feel the romance that you really want in life.
You can learn how to attract better results in your life and this includes what you experience in a relationship as well. All you have to do is want to change and start looking for a way.
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Bryan Appleton is an investor/entrepreneur who has dedicated himself to teaching others how to achieve their dream life. He is also a proud single father with one son.
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Of course there is! There are lots of people who find that they can experience better relationships when they start to feel better about themselves and their lives. If you want to be able to receive something, you have to be able to give it in return. So, you have to be in a position where you feel as though you can provide someone else with what they desire and then you will be ready to receive what you really want.
WHAT CAN YOU DO?
There are many ways that you can begin to experience better results in your life, but you have to be able to at first want to have this happen badly enough that you are willing to change how you think and feel about love and dating and relationships in general. If you already have a very negative outlook, you are not going to be able to feel the romance that you really want in life.
You can learn how to attract better results in your life and this includes what you experience in a relationship as well. All you have to do is want to change and start looking for a way.
Learn how to attract love, money, or happiness or all three in YOUR LIFE NOW! Go to http://www.successfulfather.com and SIGN up for the FREE newsletter and BOOKMARK the site and return as often as you can!
You can attract the life that you truly desire! Learn HOW! http://www.successfulfather.com/signup/Law of Attraction Secrets
Bryan Appleton is an investor/entrepreneur who has dedicated himself to teaching others how to achieve their dream life. He is also a proud single father with one son.
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Thursday, March 26, 2009
Boyfriend Break Up - Is It Possible to Get Ex Back?
Did your boyfriend break up with you? This is a rough time in your life. You are probably hurting and want to know what caused your boyfriend break up.
First of all, while you can use this time to look at yourself and where you are in your life, don’t do too much introspection. The truth behind why your boyfriend break up with you is that he had his own issues. You know what they say, “it’s not you, it’s me.”
You can spend time trying to get your ex back. If you are going to go down this route, you need to know the following things:
· Don’t pester your ex – when your boyfriend break up with you, it meant that you have more limited access to him. So don’t text him multiple times a day or call him a lot.
· It’s okay to flirt with other guys in his presence. It may even make him want you back more.
· When you do get back together for a “trial date” be cheerful and friendly but don’t pressure him for more than he can handle.
But, if you have a feeling in your gut that the relationship is over when your boyfriend break up with you, then you need to start moving on.
One of the first things you can do after your boyfriend break up is to sit down and write a long letter to him pouring out your heart. You can talk about the good times and bad. You can tell him what a jerk he is and call him all sorts of names. But, don’t mail the letter! Instead, take a candle out and burn it. This is one of the best ways to get closure after a boyfriend break up.
The next thing you need to do is do a property exchange. Give him back the t-shirt that you love to sleep in. Get the econ textbook you lent him. If there are things like toothbrushes that are too trivial to exchange, throw them away. Don’t have anything around that reminds you of him. If you have gifts that he gave you, box them up for the time being. If you have any money issues to resolve like debts to the other or a joint checking account, get them sorted out.
After you have completed the property exchange, agree that you won’t have any communication for 30 days. This may be hard if you are used to seeing each other on a daily basis, but after a boyfriend break up it is necessary to give yourself some space and distance.
It hurts a lot when a boyfriend break up with you. But it isn’t the end of your life. You can even look at it as a good thing because it means that you are now free to meet your true soul mate.
Of course, you shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that just because you’ve gone through a boyfriend break up that all of the doors are firmly shut. If you think you have a shot of winning him back and that’s something you want, you should by all means take the opportunity to do so.
True love can even survive a boyfriend break up.
by gmarlett Copyright 2009 All rights reserved
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First of all, while you can use this time to look at yourself and where you are in your life, don’t do too much introspection. The truth behind why your boyfriend break up with you is that he had his own issues. You know what they say, “it’s not you, it’s me.”
You can spend time trying to get your ex back. If you are going to go down this route, you need to know the following things:
· Don’t pester your ex – when your boyfriend break up with you, it meant that you have more limited access to him. So don’t text him multiple times a day or call him a lot.
· It’s okay to flirt with other guys in his presence. It may even make him want you back more.
· When you do get back together for a “trial date” be cheerful and friendly but don’t pressure him for more than he can handle.
But, if you have a feeling in your gut that the relationship is over when your boyfriend break up with you, then you need to start moving on.
One of the first things you can do after your boyfriend break up is to sit down and write a long letter to him pouring out your heart. You can talk about the good times and bad. You can tell him what a jerk he is and call him all sorts of names. But, don’t mail the letter! Instead, take a candle out and burn it. This is one of the best ways to get closure after a boyfriend break up.
The next thing you need to do is do a property exchange. Give him back the t-shirt that you love to sleep in. Get the econ textbook you lent him. If there are things like toothbrushes that are too trivial to exchange, throw them away. Don’t have anything around that reminds you of him. If you have gifts that he gave you, box them up for the time being. If you have any money issues to resolve like debts to the other or a joint checking account, get them sorted out.
After you have completed the property exchange, agree that you won’t have any communication for 30 days. This may be hard if you are used to seeing each other on a daily basis, but after a boyfriend break up it is necessary to give yourself some space and distance.
It hurts a lot when a boyfriend break up with you. But it isn’t the end of your life. You can even look at it as a good thing because it means that you are now free to meet your true soul mate.
Of course, you shouldn’t jump to the conclusion that just because you’ve gone through a boyfriend break up that all of the doors are firmly shut. If you think you have a shot of winning him back and that’s something you want, you should by all means take the opportunity to do so.
True love can even survive a boyfriend break up.
by gmarlett Copyright 2009 All rights reserved
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